The stillness of Long Beach: The engagement of Justin and Breanna

December had its mixture of highs and lows for me. Emily and I moved into our first home together. My choir, NJCS, performed 3 holiday concerts, and I finally lost my title as a Covid unicorn. Almost 5 years after the pandemic started I finally tested positive. All thanks to a woman sitting next to me at “Wicked.” No rest for the wicked though. See what I did there? The moment I was no longer contagious I traveled to Long Beach, New York for an engagement shoot with Justin and Breanna.

I photographed them on the most perfect afternoon of 2024. I don’t say this lightly. You know that time between Christmas and New Years? It’s as if the world was hushed for a moment. There was a stillness to everything on the beach. Even though it was 37 degrees, the sun was shining, and all was calm. There’s something very romantic and confusing about snow on a beach. It’s so beautiful but it’s as if it shouldn’t be there.

Justin and Breanna are New Yorkers that have strong ties to the area but now live in West Virginia and work for the government. Super top secret stuff man! I will be photographing their wedding later this year as well at the Allegria Hotel on this very boardwalk. They truly are a sweet couple and Justin says he just doesn’t smile in photos but if you look carefully, you might find one or two in there. Enjoy the love.

-M.Bambuch

When Elton Johnish gets married

Photographing friends is something I do not normally do. Aside from the friend/employee boundary I do not like to cross, there can be certain sides of your friends you may not want to see. Yes, I am talking from experience. Though, when Andrew and Carlos announced they were going to get married I unequivocally proclaimed, “I’m shooting your wedding guys! You can’t take no for an answer!”

Andrew and I met while singing next to each other with New Jersey Choral Society. I quickly learned he was a film director who had a deep love for all types of cinema. Furthermore, I learned that Andrew was an accomplished pianist and had monthly gigs paying homage to Elton John, hence the blog post title. Seriously though, have you seen one of his shows? Even people that don’t really enjoy Elton John love Andrew as Elton John.

The cynic in me had me thinking that such a talented human must also have some sort of hang up or chip on his shoulder. You know, the megalomaniac with hundreds of personality defects? I was astonished(and relieved) that I couldn’t have been more wrong. Andrew is the definition of who you want in a friend. He is effortlessly humble, kind, and filled with a wonderfully creative sense of humor you just want to be around.

Good people aren’t always easy to find. Andrew is one of them. The two were married at the Oakland Public Library in Oakland, New Jersey. We took portraits in the Great Oak Park a couple miles down the road. This place is special to me as my father and I would go fishing here. Their reception was held at Cucina 347, also in Oakland, New Jersey.

Brittany and David's engagement session in Asbury Park, New Jersey

When planning for their engagement shoot Brittany and Dave were conscientious in making sure our shore trip wouldn’t be too crowded. Though we are still in the lingering moments of the pandemic not even public health emergencies deter the Jersey shore crowd. <Fist pumps> Ironically, Wednesday the 19th of May, was the day New Jersey formally lifted all of its Covid restrictions. Naturally this meant everyone would flock to one of the state’s most popular beaches, Asbury Park. I can’t say we didn’t try! Though this isn’t a story about Covid. I really can’t wait to have a blog post NOT mention the pandemic. I can feel it coming soon. This is a story about two lovely people at one of the more hip and artistic sections of our state. I have many childhood memories in Asbury so I was floored when they articulated that is were they wanted their shoot to be.

We started our engagement session at the “ruins” of the old casino near the beach and here’s a little pro tip. There isn’t the nicest graffiti next to actually really love graffiti so if you’re a photographer please use that clone stamp liberally! Onward we ventured to the old carousel house. It’s one of the most iconic buildings in this beach front town. I am old enough to actually remember riding the carousel that is sadly no longer there. From there we took our journey in usual Mike fashion and just walked. The boardwalk isn’t too long to deter from exploring most of it. A lot has changed but there are still some lovely facades as you will see. Even pink shipping containers make an appearance. It was pretty crowded for a Wednesday but hopefully you don’t get that feeling from these images. I try my best to make sure the couple feels as if they are the only people on earth during their shoot.

We photographed at The Stone Pony, Wonder Bar, The Asbury Convention Hall and of course, the beach. Those are probably my favorite shots as it was just hitting golden hour as we made photos around the surf. You can’t get more lovely than running around with your partner with beachy sand and waves crashing.

I will be photographing Brittany and Dave’s wedding in mid 2022. Seems so far away but I’m sure it will come faster than I think. Please enjoy these images. I made them specifically for these two. If YOU are interested in such gorgeous moments go on over to my booking tab and see what I can do for you!

Stay safe everyone!

Crissy and Josh's engagement session in Prospect Park, Brooklyn

Sometimes fate has a strange way of intervening in our work lives. Crissy and Josh were not my couple to begin with. In fact they were the couple of my colleague, childhood neighborhood adversary and superb photographer Jon Pivko. Visit him here. Then of course, Covid hit and threw everyone’s plans in a blender. Jon and I have been no stranger to the bizarreness of the last year as far as scheduling goes. Turns out the couple’s new date just did not line up with Jon’s new schedule.

Enter me! I happened to have their wedding day open and Jon was nice enough to recommend me to them. After our first call I knew we would be an appropriate match. It’s important that couples and their vendors mesh well. I’ll dedicate an entire blog post to that later.

We all had ties to North Carolina and Boston and shared similar ideals of what they wanted as far as photography was concerned so they pulled the trigger and welcomed me on board.

Everyone knows engagement shoots are fabulous test runs. They are a wonderful way for the couple to get to know the photographer, their style and how well they mesh well together in person. You also do not have the looming anxiety of deadlines as a wedding may produce. I was so excited to hear they wanted to do their photos in their neighborhood of Brooklyn, New York. I have had so many lovely times in this borough and was excited to be back photographing in NYC as Covid(slowly) subsides.

We started at Grand Army Plaza where Josh proposed. It’s a lovely keystone to the park and even more wonderful when the giant ugly crane isn’t present so I don’t have to spend hours photoshopping it out.

Look at Crissy’s dress! Completely adorable and of course, with pockets! Josh was no slouch either. I pride couples that take consideration into their wardrobe. It’s important that you do feel comfortable but also show your best self.

From there we entered grabbed some coffee(my fave) and entered the actual park. Don’t be fooled. The park was as busy as any day but with some creative angles and well, Photoshop, they magically had the entire place to themselves.

We then headed into their neighborhood and actual apartment for a quick outfit change(super casual and fun) and checked out one of their favorite eateries, Barboncino. Then it was off to their subway stop and a French Pastry Food Truck! Did I just say French Pastry Food Truck? I did! This is why I love these guys. Well, also because they are super sweet but they also know the right food to feed the photographer.

I don’t like to make these photo blog posts too wordy because I want the pictures to speak for themselves so please enjoy our little excursion through Brooklyn, New York.

As always, like what you see? Leave a comment but more importantly, book with me!

In home boudoir photo sessions: How to make your familiar space photo shoot ready

A boudoir photo session is no longer relegated to the bedroom. Yes, the very word “boudoir” means woman’s private quarters but the essence of the shoot can be recreated almost anywhere. Usually bookings happen in 3 places. If you are hiring a photography company a studio may be where it takes place. If you are working with a sole photographer they may book a hotel or airbnb type setting. Though sometimes a boudoir photo session can take place in the most familiar setting for you, your home. Many clients may choose their home over another location for a couple reasons.In this quick blog post we will expose some of the truths on why your home is the perfect place and also give you some tips to help you get it ready for your session.

1) Comfort and familiarity

Clients may have some anxiety when it comes to traveling to a new space, especially with making photos that are more intimate in nature. Your home comes equipped with mostly everything that makes you feel safe and calm.

2) Options

Big or small, apartment or house, your home probably has more nooks and crannies to make beautiful images than you think. Photo studios or Airbnbs only afford one static location and look. This is the part where you trust your photographer’s eye to help guide you in this journey. Your space may have a bit more character than you think. It does not take much to dress up a space or make it more interesting than what you see daily. It’s the job of the photographer to help you realize that.

3) Budget (and that’s okay!)

Luxury hotel rooms are expensive! Studios are expensive! No sugar coating here. Someone who is watching their budget may opt for their home but can still have that “luxury” experience.

4) Give yourself a reason to clean

Are you ever aware of how you feel when your home is dirty? I know I thought we were talking boudoir, and we are, but this plays a big role in getting photo shoot ready. The cleaner your space the more confident you’ll feel about being in it. Try it. Pick up those socks. Hang that art you’ve been wanting to put up. Put away those clothes that are in the clean pile. Look at that! You have a floor!

5) Minimize the negative distractions

There are certain items in everyone’s household that will always detract for your photos. Remember photographers want your photos to emphasize you and not anything else. Small items such as clocks, small radios, waste baskets, personal photo frames, surge protectors, animal toys, human toys can be so distracting but easily put away until after the shoot. Even in the most “clean” houses I have had to do a quick spot check of these things before a shoot. Trust me, you do not think of these things until that Sony clock radio is beaming the time next to your elbow in a photo.

The first couple shots of these series were hampered by a clock radio in the corner left of this image on the night table. It was quickly banished so your eyes wouldn’t see digital numbers, just gorgeous human.

6) It’s all about the fabrics

You don’t have to purchase those 400 dollar Boll and Branch sheets to make your bed look fancy. Though, kudos to Boll and Branch sheets. They are comfy. A simple white comforter makes all the difference. Again, we want the focus to be on you so the more distracting the worse. You can even head to JoAnn Fabrics and pick up 3 yards of tulle in any color to dress up your bed. It looks great on camera and can be used in so many ways. I’ve even seen a woven hammock used to wrap someone’s bodice in. Your photographer can help you with the creative edge but remember, if it’s sheer and fabric, it’s going to work.

7) Windows are the eyes to the…lingerie?

If you feel like your house, apartment, pad just isn’t photogenic enough don’t worry. Most everyone I know owns a window, except if maybe you live Manhattan. Those are luxury. Windows though offer some great tricks. Remember that talk about sheer fabrics? This extends to curtains as well and if they aren’t blackout curtains they will do wonderful job diffusing light around you. Photographers have this phrase. It’s called “blowing out the highlights.” We won’t get technical here but it simply means overexposing(making brighter) the background so it looks pure white. This will give any space a glow and bath you in gorgeous light. This will essentially work at any time of day as well.

That’s a sliding glass door behind her!

8) Mirror mirror on the wall…

I am a huge fan of mirrors. Why? They double the space you’re in and also double you. Again, as I hammer this home. Boudoir is about you! So why not more of you? A simple mirror, big or small maximizes the artistic aspects of your shot. There really is countless ways you can angle it to create more of lovely you. You don’t need some large space to do this in either. Try focusing on different body parts or fogging it up by breathing on it for a very cool effect.

9) Boudoir just isn’t about the bedroom…

The essence of boudoir is intimate but the bedroom isn’t the only space you can have your session is. Almost any bathroom can have potential if it has some window light. Sorry New Yorkers. Kudos if you have a sheer shower curtain or frosted glass doors to your shower. Don’t have a window in the bathroom? You can still join the party New Yorkers. Candles work great. Here are a couple tips though. First, be careful. Fire can happen quickly. Place them away from anything flammable. Also, pro tip. Place them at body or eye level. When people have light coming from below or the floor it tends to make them look scary, like something out of a horror movie. But that also could be fun.

10) Boudoir just isn’t about the bedroom continued…

If you have access to your backyard or hey, a backyard, then environmental boudoir can be so fun. Give some green to your images or frolick out in the snow(yes it has happened). Those hedges you have bordering your house? Yep, they can be beautiful. That’s the magic of light. It makes something seemingly humdrum so beautiful. Just make sure your neighbors are okay with it. Who am I kidding? They will be.

11) Your entire wardrobe(and possibly your partner’s) is at your disposal

I never condone people buying clothing specifically for boudoir. It’s important you feel comfortable in what you’re wearing(or not wearing) and new pieces may just take some time to get used to. It’s best to work with the photographer to see what is flattering on you. Luckily you have your entire wardrobe with you. No packing a duffel bag and lugging it to the space along with shoes, jewelry etc. You’ll have options right at your disposal. Remember, it doesn’t need to be complicated. A white t-shirt can go a lot farther than you think.

Okay a black t-shirt. A black Ramones t-shirt.

12) These are strange times

Yes, as I write this we are still experiencing a pandemic. This comes with its own set of issues. Photographers have had to navigate a brave new world with social distancing, constantly fogging up viewfinders and limiting their teams to just the bare essentials to keep their clients safe. Your home may just be the best place to have your boudoir session. No traveling to funky places where you simply can’t verify the cleanliness or cleaning practices. Do you remember those “stay at home” orders last spring? Stay at home boudoir seems very reasonable to us now.

Your home affords you more flexibility than you think. When you go to schedule your session keep this list handy so you know what to expect when doing something in your personal living space. It may just surprise you. Boudoir is for everyone. Boudoir can be for any location you choose it to be.

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Anayet and Lindsay at Skylands Botanical Gardens in Ringwood, New Jersey

I could not believe I did not have this engagement session up on the blog! I photographed Anayet and Lindsay on one of the last beautiful days of fall in 2020 at the Skylands Botanical Gardens in Ringwood, New Jersey. I am talking one of the literal last days where the temp was above 50 and golden leaves still adorned the trees. I am no stranger to Skylands. I grew up two towns over. Though, there is art in not being complacent. On any beautiful day the 300 acre grounds will be filled with photographers all doing pretty much the same thing. My duty is to make sure my photographs are interesting and not stereotypical to this location. It’s a beautiful place. I can see why it’s flooded daily with photographers but it doesn’t mean my photos have to be boring!

We were blessed with low humidity and a gorgeous(quickly) setting sun so in my head I was planning out the spots I wanted to hit. It may look like there is nobody there but these to gorgeous kids but that’s a bit of photography magic. Here’s a magic photo tip, patience. Too many people in a scene will ruin that scene. Sometimes the difference between taking a standard photo or an amazing one is mere seconds. Sometimes it can be 15 minutes. The first image you see in black and white took those 15 minutes to create. The facade of the manor house is very popular and getting a clear shot with no human obstructions can be difficult. In the end I put my big boy voice on and asked politely, yet firmly, if a family could get out of the way so I could take this shot.

These two were absolute gems and you’ll be excited to hear that I will also be photographing their wedding at the Crystal Plaza later this year. Lindsay even remarked that I made Anayet actually laugh which is a high bar to cross. I knew clown school came in handy. Anyway, enough talk. Please enjoy these images from a place I know too well but always want to experience for the first time each time I photograph there.

Considering a boudoir session? Here are some tips to make it more comfortable.

Boudoir can be scary. Almost any new experience comes attached with some trepidation. It’s alright! You’re not alone. My favorite part of this experience is helping clients build their confidence and ultimately construct a beautiful narrative that they control. If you are considering a boudoir session for yourself or your partner here are some helpful tips to give you the control to finally click that book button.

1) Define why you want to do this.

Many people book boudoir sessions for many different reasons. Ask yourself, Why am I doing this? Remember boudoir doesn’t have to be for anyone but you. Also, don’t put boudoir photos in a figurative box. They can be anything celebrating you and your body.

2) Find a photographer who has work that speaks to you.

This is super important. Look through someone’s portfolio. If it doesn’t speak to you, move on. You want to be happy with their aesthetic because it ultimately will be your aesthetic. If you’re looking for something specific find someone who will photograph you the way you want.

3) On the topic of photographers…

Every professional photographer should be clear and concise about how your experience with them should go. From the minute you book to the minute your photos are delivered you should have no reservations of what is the next step. A great boudoir photographer will make sure all your questions are asked before, during and after a session. Remember, there are no silly questions, just silly answers.

Personally, every one of my client receives a consultation that defines their goals for the session. I get to know what people are looking for, or if they have no idea, help them build a vision. Boudoir by Michael Jacobs also helps with location scouting and wardrobe selection. Speaking of wardrobe selection…

4) A t shirt is just as valuable as a lingerie set.

Boudoir wardrobe can be anything you want it to be. You can wear your birthday suit or a business suit. I never endorse people buying pieces before a shoot. Why? New garments sometimes take a while to feel comfortable in. I also do not like to endorse fast fashion. A sheer cloth, a piece of fabric and again, your birthday suit work just as well. So don’t overthink this step. Part of my job is helping you select what pieces work for you.

5) Boudoir is self care.

Have you taken a look outside lately? Yeah, things aren’t going the greatest. It’s good to have a bit of control over the things you want to do in life. Getting pampered for your day with hair and makeup and having a session all about you is the perfect way to take a bit of stress off. Look, you are going to have these images forever. They are a snapshot of yourself feeling absolutely awesome and looking wonderful. How is this not self care?

All Boudoir by Michael Jacobs sessions come with hair and makeup. There is no reason for you to be rushing around trying to get a fake eyelash on. Just relax, sip some champagne and feel relaxed.

6) The best time to book boudoir is now.

I hear it so much. “I want to lose 5lbs. I’m not there yet.” I desire everyone to feel comfortable during their session but in the end that weight focused goal won’t matter. We help you with posing and apparel that help flatter you. The goal is feeling beautiful at any weight. There is no weight requirement for boudoir. Only a confidence requirement. We will get you there together.

Below is an actual session with one of my former brides, Laurel. This was Laurel’s first time ever doing anything remotely like this. She’s an actress in New York and is unbelievably sweet and expressive. All the wardrobe was provided by her and we helped select what would work best in the space. Speaking of the space, this session was shot at “Fabulous Finds” which is a gorgeous, turn of the century, consignment shop in Belvidere, New Jersey. Remember, boudoir doesn’t have to just be in a bedroom. It can be in any unique space that celebrates you.

Hair and makeup by the master: Meeza Gee. Meeza’s website.

At the end of our shoot I let Laurel take the reigns and photograph herself. It was a nice way to give some power to the client. She became even more alive clowning around and just being adorable!

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Love in the time of Covid-19

It feels like years have passed since I dusted off the old blog and said “Hello!” Well, hello. How is everyone doing in these interesting and strange times? It has been bonkers over here. I will spare the pity party and just reflect with these words. My family is safe, I am safe, my business is (somewhat) intact. I couldn’t ask for anything more, well maybe a doughnut? It’s lovely to be back and working. It’s even more lovely that I get to share these images and short stories with you again. It makes my heart full. Shall we proceed? Let’s.

Like most couples, Angel and Ricky’s wedding day was disturbed and augmented by Corona virus. Their initial plan was to be married at the Madison Hotel in Morristown, New Jersey. Though I am not too keen on how venues have been conducting themselves during this time I can’t imagine the amount of scrambling they are doing to make things right, or at least give a refund. This is a topic for another day. Angel and Ricky’s 200 person wedding was just not feasible with the restrictions and problems caused by this pandemic. Though a 12 person wedding was. It just so happens that Ricky’s parents own a b&b quite close to the Delaware Water Gap, The Rosemary Inn. Fate is a capricious witch that sometimes cooperates for the best. They would be married on the grounds with their closest immediate family. Only 12 persons, including the bride and the groom.

Before the wedding day I was able to drive over there and take a tour with them while they worked on the grounds. It is also a working farm! I was astonished at how beautiful it was. I sometimes forget how New Jersey is gorgeous. I redact that. New Jersey is gorgeous. There were so many possibilities for photos and so many moments to capture.

I generally don’t photograph smaller weddings. New Jersey is well known for being a wedding factory of a state but this was beyond a pleasant surprise that I hope continues into the future, post pandemic. There were times I felt like I was firing on all cylinders and had to remind myself I could slow down and just be. There was actual downtime during a wedding(this is uncommon). I enjoyed visiting with Angel as she got her makeup done and Zoomed with her besties who couldn’t make it and then walking over to the other wing of the house to watch Ricky try and put a tuxedo on their adorable family dog Jax. I got to really know everyone during the day, sisters and brothers and significant others. They invited me to drink, hang and play games. This was an experience to me that I don’t get to be a part of often and I’m so thankful for these two and they day they made together. Please enjoy the images. They were crafted with heart and love.

Tim and Liz's "engagement" photo shoot in Weehawken, New Jersey.

This blog post is a little on the late side. In the beginning of December I left the states for a month in Cartagena, Colombia. I am half Colombian if my website hasn’t drilled that into your head already. I was visiting my family. That is entirely other blog post for another day. Now, I am back and ready to tackle 2020, BUT FIRST I wanted to share a session with you that I photographed right before I left. Tim and Liz were George Street clients( I am a contract photographer) but I couldn’t have asked for a sweeter pair of people. They live in Weehawken, New Jersey, just blocks away from the waterfront which gives you a lovely view of New York City. The cold winter was already upon us but they were still able to dress appropriately and still look rather dashing. Note to any brides to be, fun fairy skirts are things every person should wear. We started in the cozy warmth of their building and then ventured outside where the sun decided to cooperate at times but the cold was continuous. Liz wore these amazing red gloves as you’ll see. I think they popped the right amount of lovely red, so chic! Tim wore a classic blue blazer with a monogrammed cuff, absolutely dashing. And now I’m British. This wasn’t necessarily their engagement session but a year after their actual marriage. Regardless they displayed the love and fondness of newlyweds. Please enjoy our photo shoot “engagement” on the lovely edges of Weehawken, New Jersey. And also, if they holidays gave you a wonderful engagement it’s not too early to book the wonderful Michael Jacobs Photo . Send me a note.

Michelle and Paul at Little Egg Harbor

When chatting with my clients about engagement shoots I usually ask if there are places that are special to them. As much as a nice park or generic scenery work, I find having a place special to a couple’s history makes the most sense. It just gives it that little something extra. So when Michelle and Paul told me their family had a house not too far from Long Beach Island, New Jersey I squeed. Yes that’s a word. A fall beach engagement session you say? Count me in. Fall is probably the most beautiful time to photograph anything at the beach. There are less people, less humidity and everything is slowly turning those golden hues. It is just gorgeous. Most couples haven’t been photographed professionally. I completely understand this and it can be pretty daunting to be the star of the show but Michelle, Paul and their totes adorable puppy were absolute models. Aside from picking an impeccable wardrobe they are also just beautiful people, inside and out. All you need to remember during your engagement shoot is to keep yourselves at the forefront of the experience, literally focus on each other and of course, have fun. I will be photographing their wedding next summer and cannot wait to make even more gorgeous photographs with them. Special thanks to Paul’s parents for being extra helpful with their pup(a must if you bring your animal child to an engagement shoot).

Please enjoy Michelle and Paul and their engagement at the beach.

Kara and Randy in Central Park and Dumbo, Brooklyn

It was just a regular afternoon, like any afternoon when my phone rang from across the house. I didn’t get to it in time but I was able watch Google ridiculously transcribe the voicemail. “Hi Mike, I don’t know if you remember me but we went to school together? This is Ronald Blazer.

Ronald Blazer? That’s not real. Thankfully I am aware that Google sometimes has a problem with transcribing more than 2 syllable words. After listening to the voicemail myself I was stunned to hear not, Ronald but Randy (let’s leave last names out of this) from high school calling to inquire about needing an engagement shoot.

First of all, Randy, if you’re reading this, don’t be silly. Of course I know who you are. Randy and I were in the Lakeland High School Band together and both played trumpets and had very similar friend groups. He was definitely a pal in our awkward stages in life. I have pictures to prove it. Oh boy, do I have pictures. Though, that’s neither here nor there. Randy and his wonderful fiance Kara were doing a destination wedding but needed some quick photographs done in their fair city of New York before they tied the knot. I obliged whole heartily.

It was one of the finest days we’ve had this year. Warm, breezy and sunny. We traveled from their apartment on the upper west side into Central Park, down to Soho and finally ending at sunset in Dumbo, Brooklyn. If you’re going to do engagement photos, this is how you do them. It was great to catch up as well. These two are killing it and I’m so happy that they could share an afternoon with me. I’ll be honest Randy, you’re marrying way up. I know you know this. Enjoy Kara and Randy friends.

How could I forget talking about this adorable potato!

Magic swirly transition to evening time.

Deb and Chris in Hoboken: An engagement journey.

If Deb and Chris are any indication of the couples coming my way for the wedding seasons of New York and New Jersey, I think I’ll be okay. I mean it. It’s scary to move back to your home state after almost 18 years away. Everything is familiar but also quite different. It’s nice to have two kind and gracious souls to photograph. That’s what I ask for the most, kind people who are interested in having quality photos. It’s part of my mission statement on this website! I do not want photography to be an afterthought. It’s important.

Anyway, as per usual, I digress. Spring has been a bit rough in New Jersey. Only a handful of days have been suitable photos outdoors. Luckily, this was one of the first. You felt the energy of Hoboken on this first validly spring day. Funnily enough, it was my job to make sure that the energy was all these two. This means avoiding people and using my composing skills as a photographer to make sure Deb and Chris were the only ones that mattered. There were so many people to avoid!

We started our journey at the Ainsworth, a cute little restaurant on the Hudson. Mere minutes before two arrived I was accosted but a pretty inebriated man who had a thousand questions about my cameras. That’s always fun. Thank goodness these two came and saved me. From there we visited the spot where he asked her to marry him, pier c, and meandered through Hoboken’s quaint streets. These are my favorite kind of engagement photos because they take time. They are not rushed. They are just the couple and myself getting to know each other and if a photo opp arises we take it. They practiced dipping(keep practicing you two) and I pointed out all the places to eat pastries, as per usual. We finally ended at the Hoboken train station which is BEAUTIFUL. Seriously, it’s a relic of a different time and then caught the final moments of “sun” as New York City loomed in the backdrop. I am so excited to also be photographing their wedding in November. I couldn’t ask for sweeter people, honestly. This is why I am a photographer. It’s the people that matter. I hope you enjoy.

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My personal favorite. Hair so healthy, it Debs!

Okay, close second as personal fave.

THE WINK!

Okay, third personal favorite. Heart bokeh, completely unexpected!

"Springtime" engagement with Mike and Meredith at Liberty State Park.

I’m starting off this blog post title with quotations because spring is definitely here as far as the calendar is concerned but they forgot to tell New Jersey about it. It’s still a tad bit cold and it seems nothing has yet to bloom. Totally alright. I make pictures regardless of the season. I met Mike and Meredith on a chilly morning in March at Liberty State Park. If you’ve ever been there you know, it’s a pretty cool place. It has all the views of New York without hopping on the Path, some beautiful trails and is right next to the Liberty Science Center. The center is a right of passage for every 3rd grader in New Jersey.

As usual, I digress. I met the lovely couple as the sun was just rising over the city. They brought their lovely little puppy Cleo too. Dogs and engagement shoots can be tricky because the couple sometimes gets very focused on getting the dog to behave. Luckily Mike and Meredith are wicked smart and enlisted the help of their friend to keep Cleo occupied when we made photographs.

I’ll be shooting Mike and Meredith’s wedding in early summer this year so it was exciting to get to know them. I feel that’s what a solid engagement shoot is, a great chance to get to know the people that will be trusting you with their future memories. I love laid back people. These two were completely awesome. I know there’s always apprehension when being professionally photographed. What do you do with your hands? How do you pose? Why is this weird man in our faces? I want none of that. I just want a fun conversation and some snaps in between to show how much you guys rock!

Liberty State Park is expansive and you can get quite a different engagement look and feel from each of it’s locations. I think we covered all our bases. In this set you’ll see some New York landscape, turn of the century train station, and seemingly the golden hues of the woods. I’m so lucky to have sweet clients. Enjoy Mike, Meredith (and Cleo!).

KEEP IT PG KIDS!

Don't schedule a boudoir session until you read this.

boudoir (/ˈbuːdwɑːr/; French: [bu.dwaʁ]) is a woman's private sitting room or salon in a furnished accommodation usually between the dining room and the bedroom, but can also refer to a woman's private bedroom. The term derives from the French verb bouder to sulk or pout, or boudeur sulk or sulking, and originally was a room for sulking in, to put away or withdraw to.

Yes, a literal definition of the word boudoir. It's a lady's bedroom. Or a sulking woman. This blog post is about photographing a woman sulking in her bedroom. Thanks for listening folks, goodnight.

Just kidding. Well, sorta.

Boudoir photography, in its most basic definition and form, is somewhat intimate, personal photographs that an individual (usually but not always a female) has created to give to a significant other as a gift of sorts. Boudoir has become a bit of a niche genre that is marketed to brides-to-be that want to give their groom a special sexy present before their wedding night. Well, this is from my hours of researching people who shoot boudoir, so it's not exactly scientific, but it usually goes like this. It's called boudoir photography because it is usually set in the bedroom of the woman a photographer is shooting. Now I am not going to play with pronouns too much while writing this blog but I'll be clear that it's mostly marketed towards people that identify as female. There are guys who request boudoir, but honestly it's been lambasted as tongue and cheek and silly. I have yet to receive a boudoir inquiry from a guy that feels confident in his sexuality and body. Please guys, give me a call. It almost sounds as if I'm asking for a date there. I'm not. I just love to have variations in my clients.

Let's build some universal truths as to what I feel boudoir should be. Let's take the significant other out of the equation. I get it, it's a great gift, and I've totally marketed it that way in the past. Yes, your significant other would probably love to see you in various states of undress, well lit and beautiful, but let's talk about you.

I don't want to make the blanket statement that posing in the buff or near buff is the most empowering thing someone can do. It's not. There are many forms of empowering actions. I feel like this happens to just be one of them. Again, we are focused on the self at the moment. A boudoir session doesn't have to be for anyone but yourself. There's something primal, slightly narcissistic (I say that in the best way possible, even though I don't believe in healthy narcissism but that's another story for another therapy couch) and possibly emboldening about displaying the human form. I'm kicking myself as I type this because I had a pretty good statement that was something to the effect of:

Everyone has a little bit of self appreciation in their rear view mirror. Everyone. And it's okay from time to time to look back at it and make sure it's still there. When we look good, we feel good. Like right now, I look like a disheveled mess that lost four paragraphs of this blog to the internet gods. I don't feel the best. But when I've taken care of myself, eaten healthily, brushed my hair, I feel better. Especially with my body.

Anyway, maybe you've gotten your body to a point you feel proud of. Maybe you have overcome a difficult experience in life and want to show off. Maybe you just love yourself and want to embrace the beautiful perfect and imperfect sides of you. And yes, maybe you have a significant other that wants to see a more primal, sensual part of you through photographs.

It's okay to love the way you look, to get more in tune with how you feel. It's our job as a creative and photographer to help you with that image. Boudoir isn't the vision of the photographer. It's your vision on how you can see yourself in a flattering way. We just help with that vision. So if people are showing up to photograph you with the intent of institutionally contrived sex appeal, they really aren't giving you a service. They are taking your picture. Which is pretty self-centered.

I firmly believe shoots like this are successful with a couple key ingredients :

1) Trust and comfort:

You're trusting someone else to portray you in an intimate fashion. Your comfort follows. Not just your comfort with me, comfort with yourself. Boudoir clients who can become an actor, or play a part, or go to a special place in their heads, often have the most successful shoots. This has absolutely nothing to do with posing, too. My poses aren't going to make you look better. Your attitude is going to define that. I get to know my clients on a more human level. I want to know their comforts, their fears, their funny stories, their sad stories, their favorite music, their favorite candy bar. When they talk about these things, you can see their eyes light up and it's amazing.

What I find most important to bring into a session is humor; humor more than anything.
If you don't know this about me, I spent a good deal of my entire adult life working in mental health. I worked with very sick individuals. They didn't have many great moments in their life thus far to subscribe to, so I actively participated in trying to find something that would make them laugh. Coping skills for the mentally ill and coping skills for the non-mentally ill are pretty much the same. Humor is a pretty great equalizer. Countless studies show that when you are laughing, your heart rate lowers, as does your blood pressure, and your brain and body create all those lovely neurotransmitters like serotonin and dopamine to make you feel a whole lot better. In boudoir sessions, this is a must! You're more likely to be yourself or someone else if you're rolling on the floor laughing between takes.

2) Hair and makeup: “I can do the makeup myself” I’ve heard that one before and I simply have to disagree with that when considering boudoir. You are investing in a pampered experience. Do not give yourself more headaches by rushing to do that yourself. You’re great at makeup you say? I believe you completely but even makeup artists love getting their face done from time to time. I firmly believe makeup and hair is as important as the photography itself. This is why all my packages include it. Why? It’s transformative and enhancing. A licensed cosmetologist or esthetician can help you see certain qualities you have but aren’t familiar with. If you want to take the route of transformation they will be able to help you realize this new persona. I’ve never had a client that was regretful that they had someone pampering them before the shoot. That is also a big portion of boudoir, pampering. You’re letting someone else take care of you. Isn’t that the point? “I can do my makeup myself

3) Wardrobe, everyone needs assistance.
I always want you to feel like you're in control of the situation. You're dictating the world, I'm just helping you walk through it. This is why it's so important we discuss wardrobe before the shoot. I don't want people going out and buying things they aren't used to wearing. Nor does the session have to be about specific clothing. Sometimes it's not even about clothing! (Ha ha ha, get it, boudoir, not about clothing.) Let’s face it there is a lot of lingerie out there. It’s complicated. What you grab off of amazon or Victoria’s Secret has to flatter you. I’ve had sessions where people go out and purchase something that “looks sexy” but in reality isn’t very flattering to their body type or personality. The more confident you feel in your undergarments the more confidence you will have in your images. This is vastly important. Don’t select these alone.

4) Attitude

It has to be about attitude. Your attitude. I cater to the mood with music that you've picked. (It makes me talk less, which is a good thing. You’ve made it this far, you can see I'm a talker. I'll never tell anyone to act a certain way. I shutter at the thought (not a spelling error, a pun!) of saying "act sexy."

A) That's inappropriate.
B) That's a perfect way to be awkward and do the opposite.
I want people to go to places they find happy in their mind. Think about times in your life that you felt totally free and happy. Maybe it’s with someone? Maybe it’s with yourself? Maybe that moment hasn’t happened yet but it’s a fantasy you have. This is the space to explore those feelings. They all show up on your facial expressions. Your mindset can be the sexiest part of a photo shoot like this. Now I find that empowering. It’s your fantasy, I’m only there to guide and document.

I decided to revisit this concept after a boudoir marathon weekend we held a week ago. Why? Boudoir isn’t that common. Not many photographers do it correctly and there is a general misunderstanding as to what it actually is. I loved each and every one of my clients and it’s also a reminder to teach me how to flatter all body types. I can’t say this enough, all body types are beautiful. I want people to be proud of themselves and knowing that I got them there is a wonderful feeling. If you follow this formula with some easy puzzle pieces I can assure you that you will have images you will have forever. You’ll look back on them years from now and be proud. I really think that’s something worth investing in.

If this has peaked your interest or you would like to know more about the boudoir packages I have available, please click on booking on my website’s menu. I would be happy to answer all your questions.

Thank you!

-Mike

You have to see what he did next! Click here for the full story.

I sat here for a moment watching the cursor blink. What on earth should I name one of the more important blog posts I’ll be writing this year? I know! Let’s use a click bait phrase! As overused and silly as that title may seem I’m not sure there is a better one that describes what this blog post will be about. If you’ve stumbled upon me through happenstance, targeted paid ad, or just a friend stalking me, hello! I’m so happy to have you here. My name is Mike and I am a people photographer (this means I shoot almost anything involving people, most specifically weddings, boudoir, engagements and portraits). I am established in Northern New Jersey.

I’m not here to sell you anything. I simply would like to introduce you to, me. There’s so much I’d love to tell you and given the amount of space I have to write, I very well could go on for days. Though, I read that there’s about a 37 second attention span for people on new websites so I’m probably already at a deficit. Oh, the self inflicted pressure.

Time for the Cliff note’s version. Are those still a thing? I mean the internet probably obliterated that business right? I grew up in northern New Jersey about 40 minutes west of Manhattan, in a small town that could have not been farther from city life. School brought me to Boston where I lived for over a decade and a fleeting relationship propelled me to North Carolina. In my heart I have always known that I belonged in the Northeast. I’m much too honest, brash, dramatic and progressive for some southern sensibilities. I’ve now returned home to New Jersey. I’ve come back to a saturated market where everyone seemingly is a photographer. There’s so much noise and I don’t want to be a part of it. I just want to rise above, but how?

Everyone owns some type of camera. It’s usually their cell phone. More pictures are being taken than any time in history. We document nearly everything we do. Remember though, quantity doesn’t always equate to quality and I feel like the importance of photographs have lost their tread.

I want photographs to have their meaning back. I want to make tangible memories for people to hold in their hands, keep in their wallets or their walls for years to come. I want the creation of these photographs to be as fun as the pictures themselves. This world is too quick. It’s too swift with how it deals with memories. No one needs 100 pictures of their ramen. I’d argue you don’t need any. What you need is to remember the experience, how it felt to taste it, the people you were with, that moment in time. Personally, photographs should be the same. They are a representation of a moment, an experience, a time that you wanted documented.

Now that I’m in New Jersey I am seeking out clients that feel the same. I don’t want people to treat photography as an afterthought or something they just feel they need to do because that’s what the wedding industry says they need. I care about preserving your memories as much as you care about creating them. So, let me be that person who handles them with kid-gloves.

I’m not the photographer who just slaps on a filter and calls it a day. I still shoot film for a majority of my services because it’s important to slow down and think before I click the shutter. When I photograph you I want it to be a conversation. I don’t want you to feel as if a big lens is in your face. People may not always remember names but they remember how they were treated in life. So, this is me. I’m Mike and I’m a photographer that makes portraits of people, eats their wedding cake, makes them laugh when they don’t want to and makes sure they remember the lives they have lived, through pictures. Below is a sampling of my work including weddings, engagements, portraits and some boudoir. You can browse the rest of my website and see other moments I’ve captured for people and if you’d like, leave me a note. I’d love to chat. Being a photographer here in New Jersey is what I’m doing next.

P.S: This is a big and beautiful website, don’t forget to look around!

Michael Jacobs Photo gallery samples

Sing me a tune about your favorite football team.

A couple weeks ago I was given the opportunity to spend some time with two sweet people. Erica and David met me in downtown Raleigh on a questionably wet Saturday. If you are familiar with thunderstorms in North Carolina, you know they are absolutely no joke. Also, they decide to do what they want, when they want. The city seemed to be towing the line between dry and deluge with a little lightning in between. No matter, I welcome awful weather to shoot in.

We arrived at Chuck’s Burgers just in time for some droplets. It had been their first date spot a couple years ago. Who wouldn’t want to get to know someone over some tasty burgers? I apologize to my vegan and vegetarian friends. I ran into the street a couple times to capture some wide angles of them. Try and see if you can spot me in the reflection I didn’t feel the need to edit out.

We then decided to move down to the Duke Energy Center for Performing Arts. We got a free wind machine as we walked between Raleigh’s ever growing skyline. The performing arts center holds a special place for Erica as well as myself. We both sing together in the North Carolina Master Chorale and most of our performances are held there. So of course much of this engagement session included singing, or my version of singing. It’s a beautiful building that gives a direct line of sight to the capital on the other end of Fayetteville St. David was really chill about it all and I appreciated that he just wanted to be there with her. But wait, there’s more! They are a genuinely sweet and silly couple and as much as the cute moments happened, so did the goofy ones. These are the shots I live for. Nothing posed, just emotions and elation.

The weather got progressively eerie with more lightning, wind, and the thought of a downpour. So, what was the next logical step? Outfit change and then off to shoot outdoors in an open field!

We decided to drive on over to the North Carolina Museum of Art. If you haven’t been, go! It really is the gem of the Triangle. The museum’s park is art itself. I believe it’s over 200 acres of green space, sculpture, and rolling hills. Of course, it had begun to pour once we parked. You could literally see the sun and large cumulus clouds in the distance while it rained upon us. What a metaphor for life! Regardless, I knew it was a special time to shoot and as soon as the rain diminished to a light drizzle I got them out of their car. Now if you look closely, it IS raining in these pictures but I decided to go for a warmer approach to the set. Of course the rain came back as we walked to our final spot but we were able to capture THE BEST photo ever. A little rain, love and lavender. I gave David my reflector to hold over Erica’s head as we walked back to the car so her hair wouldn’t get too wet. It was a adorable moment that I feel sums up their quirky and lovely relationship. Please enjoy these images. I had such a joy making them.

And if YOU need images that last, well, you’re at my website! Send me a note!

The gentleman painting the mural was very confused as to why I wanted this picture.

Personal fave.

Notebook vibes y’all, except without the dementia and sadness.

Excuse the wet lens.

The argument for always second shooting

     I shot my first wedding almost ten years ago, thanks Facebook memories. It almost feels like an alternate reality. The pictures are still safe on a hard drive somewhere in my cabinet but if I looked at them now I'd probably have a word with my younger self. That's a good thing. I would hope in ten years for some substantial growth. Though I feel like I've always been confident at whatever level I've been at in photography, I was definitely an infant when it came to weddings. As I type this I already have the urge to write another much needed blog post on what it takes to be a wedding photographer. More on that much later. Trust me kids, it takes a lot more than most people are willing to give. 

Already off topic, good job Mike. My point is, I've had a decade to reflect on the experiences I've garnered shooting weddings. It's night and day about how I feel about the subject now. It's night and day about how I photograph the subject now. Again, I would hope so. Ten years in something with no growth would be an awful waste of time. I try to look back and figure out what has been the biggest catalyst in my growth. Could it have been education? Gear? Willingness for pain and frustration? I'm sure it's a combination of these things but I'd like to add one more log to the pyre.

     There is something that really didn't become apparent to me until about two years ago. Better late than never Mike. Oddly enough, I feel like second shooting a wedding has been one of the greater assets in helping me understand wedding photography. This is where a lot of you stop reading. Wait, hold on, don't worry! If you don't know what second shooting a wedding is I'm here to explain it in great detail!

Generally, when folks hire a photographer for a mid to large size wedding they aren't just hiring one photographer. It becomes a mathematical uncertainty if one person is tasked with covering ten or twelve hour day. Sometimes it's just downright evil. With so much weight placed on covering the day appropriately it can be daunting to think that one person could capture every lovely moment correctly. Some people do but they are in need of a good therapist. I kid, no I don't.

So yes, a photographer that is hired for a large wedding generally employs a "second shooter", "assistant photographer", "minor photographer", "photography intern" as someone to help supplement the  coverage of this important day. With words like "intern" and "assistant" sometimes one would think the second photographer isn't as good or has a lot less experience than the lead photographer. This might be true but that's not always the case. I've personally hired second shooters that were better than me. See, the moniker of a second shooter doesn't necessarily equate to experience or talent, it's a role. It's a specific role that sometimes entails a lot more than just getting supplementary coverage like the groomsmen, details, alternate viewpoints. It's an insurance policy. People do make mistakes and lead photographers are still not immune. I have to say this though, you don't know a wedding fully until you've shot it as the main photographer and as the second shooter.  I feel that not always being in the driver's seat can make you a better photographer overall.  

I must be honest. A lot of this post has been influenced by the second shooting work I've personally been doing for the past year with Pivko Photo. I probably should have opened this blog post with some touching personal allegory about my experience. Maybe I will, as this is my first draft of the blog. Jon, of Pivko Photo, is a successful and wonderful photographer in the Tri-State area of New York, New Jersey and Pennsylvania. Strangely enough, I have known Jon since I was a small child. He grew up just down the street from me. That is where most of the cute coincidences end. We weren't particularly friendly as children, never kept in touch through high school or even college and passed most of our 20's in pretty significant isolation from each other. I don't mean to make that more dramatic than it sounds. We were just two people living our lives with no real reason to cross paths. That is until I found out he needed a second shooter for one of his wedding gigs. I travel to New Jersey almost monthly from North Carolina as I still have friends and my family living in that area. His business model almost always includes the need for two photographers at a wedding so I jumped at the chance to see another working photographer in their element. I guess you could say we've developed a working relationship that makes up for all the time we never said "hello" in the highs school hallway. I am thankful for that.

     It's been eye opening to say the least and a big reason why I think this blog post should be consumed by the seasoned photographer. I hope you find some of these thoughts on second shooting beneficial to your brand and continued education.

1) It keeps you humble. 

No matter how amazing you might be at your craft there will always be someone better. For every great image you create, trust me, there is someone that is hungrier and more determined than you. Try being a guitarist in New York City. You'll see what I mean. It's alright to not always have top billing on something.

2) It strengthens your communication and business relationship skills.

Generally when you tackle a wedding you're a team. You're not a photographer existing in a silo alone. In addition to another photographer you are also probably working with a videographer team. There is no room for ego. You all want to collaborate to create the best possible product for the client, in turn, giving you the best possible product for your business.

3) It's less stressful(slightly and sometimes).

Before I get some strongly worded emails, all wedding photography is stressful but again, we are talking about specific roles here. As a lead photographer your focus is generally the bride, the groom and the bride, and the bride, and the bride. Get it? A second shooter has slightly more control over what they can focus on. You don't necessarily have to run the show. Though, you're pretty integral on how that show is carried out you can float as needed to certain areas of the day that may need more attention. Also, when it comes time to being finished with the event you generally don't have to edit an entire wedding. Just hand over your cards and let the lead photographer slave away for a couple months. Hi Jon. You can select the images you've shot and use them for your personal portfolio(per agreement of the main photographer).  If you took the photo, you can usually use it for marketing.

4) You get some insight into how others run their photography business.

This is a big one for me especially. I certainly have a method to shooting weddings as a main photographer but I've learned through second shooting that what I do is FAR from the gold standard. In fact I've learned a lot of what I do is completely wrong, HA HA. Lead photographers will definitely have a method to their wedding photography. Sometimes it works and sometimes it may not. Hey, nobody is perfect but the insights gained into time management, how a photographer interacts with the client and overall mood of the shoot are invaluable to you.

5) It can be easier than booking weddings yourself.

Sure the financial payout is far less than a first shooter but the need for reliable second shooters is always present. Do you have slower months in the fall and winter? Think about making some additional income with second shooting. A couple gigs a month can be a life support to newer businesses or ones that need that fancy new mirrorless camera to add to their arsenal. Just kidding, boo Sony mirrorless. No, I'm not, they are great if that's what you need. 

6) Networking

I feel like in this industry friends are way better than enemies. If you are a reliable, personable human, people remember that. Always cast a wide net with the right people in your industry. You'll allow yourself free marketing when you fulfill these duties. I've personally booked weddings from second shooting other weddings. Make a positive splash with the people you work with and the people you service. Remember, don't be a hermit. 

7) It's actually sorta fun.

Yes, actually, sorta, I know these words don't define my confidence in the statement but it can be. Because a lot of the day is not entirely on your shoulders you have time to think about shots you wouldn't necessarily do on your own. Seriously, a certain switch turns off in my brain when I second shoot. I mean, in a good way. It's as if someone pushed the "not so stressed" button instead of the "Oh my god this day is resting on my shoulders" button. 

Yes, I have now convinced myself to write a complimentary blog post about what it takes to actually be a wedding photographer and high up on that list will definitely be, second shooting. Anyone trying to break into wedding photography must second shoot or assist a wedding before taking one on themselves as the main photographer. There is just too much at stake on this day. If you're jumping into wedding photography and choose a large wedding as your first gig, you're going to have a bad time. Trust me. Being a second shooter allows you to see how the day unfolds. It gives you such perspective on what goes right and wrong during a wedding shoot. Make sure you get comfortable with the stresses of the day because there will be many. It's a great way of identifying if this type of photography is right for you. Any questions, comments, concerns, please feel free to send me a note. I love a good discussion. Oh, and of course, what good is a photographer's blog without some pictures!? Here are a few selections from this seasoned, second shooter. Enjoy!

Why your wedding needs the Warren Estate for its venue.

     Just over an hour's drive northeast of Raleigh sits the sleepy, quaint, farming community of Warrenton. You can see cloud tops rolling over the landscapes for miles. Lush green crops of corn, tobacco, and cotton line the country road of route 1. It's a warm and quiet summer day and you feel miles away from the bustle of the Triangle. Up ahead you see a sign for the "Warren Estate." You turn left onto a rustic farm road and are immediately welcomed by rows of sweet corn that lead you by a beautiful, turn of the century, farm house. This is just the beginning of what the Warren Estate has to offer you. What lies ahead is a decommissioned, 105 acre, tobacco farm that has slowly been meticulously updated and converted by Hniang and Kevin. This lovely couple has spent the past year making sure that this parcel of history and beauty is ready for the bride and groom that want the comforts of the city and appeal of the country.  They have invested months of work into sustainable farming. A beautiful, fully functioning barn is the backdrop of your nuptials. Freshly cut paths wide enough for cars meander through 60 more acres of woods. Inside this maze of beauty you'll find a wildflower field, old tobacco processing houses, rustic cars, and 200 year old trees providing a canopy from the hot North Carolina sun. All paths though, lead back to the gorgeous manicured lawns of the main estate. A tent can accommodate over 200 guests and parking is ample. Enjoy cocktails under the stars during your reception with a fully stocked bar. This is certainly the place you want to have your fist night as newlyweds.

     The Warren Estate is so much more than a wedding venue. I personally know Hniang and Kevin have plans to make this estate into a year round attraction for every season but now is the time to consider this space for your wedding.  For more information or to book you can visit the Warren Estate at their home on the web at, The Warren Estate.

Need a photographer for your wedding? Guys and gals, I'm right here! Check out my wedding packages! Send me a note on here. We'll go out for coffee and doughnuts.

Special thanks to everyone who was a part of this styled shoot and of course, Hniang and Kevin for providing their gorgeous venue.

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The doughnut connoisseur and the incredible flying man.

Aside from doing my own photography business, I do some contracting photography work for George Street Photo and Video. I'm sure you may have been bombarded by their ads if you are currently engaged. It is what it is, but I can't speak ill of a company that employs me on some level. Well, I can but that's not what this blog post is about.  I'd like to also think they have good taste in hiring photographers. (sarcastic grin). I am basically sent clients who book me through them. I show up, do some dancing, taking pictures, and then leave. It's the same scope with portraits, boudoir, and weddings. It can be slightly impersonal. Developing a relationship with people is one of the driving reasons I am a photographer. There is just less time to do this when you're contracted to shoot things. Like I said, it is what it is, and George Street has never let me down in the quality of my clients. They continued their winning streak this week with my portrait engagement session of Zach Morris and Kelly Kapowski. Alright, their last names aren't really Morris and Kapowski but Zach and Kelly! Come on! "I'm so excited, I'm so excited! I'm so, so scared!" Alright, that quote was actually attributed to Jessie Spanow but it's still from NBC's hit teen comedy series, "Saved By the Bell." Very young millennials are very confused at everything I am saying right now. Go watch it on Youtube or something!

I met Zach and Kelly at Raleigh's Umstead Park. It's probably the largest green space of forest in the area, boasting trails, lakes and probably scary snakes. It's interesting because the last time I had been to that location of Umstead, I was in a very different mindset/place. I had just moved to Raleigh weeks earlier and it was definitely a scary time. This weekend couldn't have felt more opposite. Alright, I'll leave the psych babble for the therapist. It was cold, chilly by Raleigh standards, but the sun was shining and I was ready to make some sweet images. I was really happy that their version of "casual" was actually really cute and complimentary on the color spectrum. Trust me, when couples say they are "casual" it can sometimes mean, khakis and a TJ Maxx polo shirt.  I hope you know my feelings about khakis.

Pastels on him worked amazing and her plum jeans worked well to compliment. I could already tell they were wicked adorable. Their connection was electric and the biggest smiles erupted when they were just hanging out with each other...and also if Zach saw a dog. Guys usually tend to be slightly more awkward than their female counter parts but that's okay. I think staring at the camera seems to be the most difficult thing so I try and banish that. I want couples to be with each other. There is hardly ever a reason for them to look in my direction. The minute Zach did this, he came alive with her. 

I generally ask 100 questions during a shoot but since I just got to know them that day I may have asked 1,000. I just like to talk to people and I think it helps break down that wall that the camera creates when I lift it up. Speaking of camera, most of these shots are taken with the Canon 85mm f1.2 L, a love/hate lens. Some macro shots were taken with the Canon 24-70mm f4 L lens. But yes, I learned that Zach loves all things outdoors and is in the Air Force. He also has jumped out of a plane (willingly) over 100 times. My heart was racing just thinking about that. After 67 jumps does it become routine? Can you play a game of chess on your way down? So many questions. Kelly is in school to be a Physician's Assistant. She's also a hater of IPAs, yay! They are the worst beers. Fight me on it. Also, somewhat of a doughnut lover. Plus, guys, I hope if you are reading this you took my advice and stopped by "Baker's Dozen" in Cary for some deep fried apple fritter goodness. They are getting married in Colorado which is probably a good reason why I was not selected as their George Street Wedding Photographer. Oh well, may the doughnuts be with them. Zach recently had hip surgery so I wasn't going to go hiking madly with them. This still did not stop him from picking Kelly up and walking about from location to location.

I've been trying lately to put people in poses that sometimes might be considered, "only for a specific gender." I don't think it's fair that a guy has to always be "aggressive." A lady can pull her man in just as well. Or vice versa. It doesn't matter. Love is love.

There was a gorgeous tree that was already shedding its petals, so I asked Zach to shake it. It's direct midday sunlight here so thankfully Kelly was back lit and I exposed for her skin. For non photography folks, mid day sun is generally the worst. It decreases contrast, makes people squint, and overall can be pretty unflattering. Thankfully, most of our images were in open shade with the beautiful pines providing some diffusion. 

Probably my favorite mini set from the shoot right here.

I wanted some crisp depth of field so I composited about 10 shots to make this. It's probably my favorite shot.

I had to go change my lens and I caught them dancing. Shame on me for putting my lens far away from me and shame on them for being cute while I wasn't taking pictures.

"You proposed, sitting down? Who are you!?" Just kidding, he did not. You'll get to see the proposal journal and book in a second.

There's our GQ stud!

"Awwh, he looks so happy! He must be looking at Kelly!" Nope, puppy. 

Huge points for Pablo Neruda. HUUUUUUUUUUGE.

Note: They had already been engaged for a little while. This was more of a pictorial capture of the materials he used. These two were so lovely. You could just tell they were good people. That's important. I don't like photographing the baddies. I mean I will, but I won't talk doughnuts and beer with you. I wish them nothing but the best. Their wedding sounds like the stuff the galaxy is made out of, friends, food and love. If you are interested in talking pastries and getting some pretty pictures taken of yourselves, don't hesitate to reach out and say hello. I love new friends and I love to make photographs for you that last. 

"You're going to wear those khakis Mark, and you're gonna like it!"

CONGRATULATIONS! You're engaged! Oh, my, gosh! That ring (or any other non-conformist engagement thang) is beautiful! What's next? Well, about a billion things. Luckily this blog post will be short, informative, and focus on one thing, engagement photography!!! An engagement shoot, or "e-session" as the cool kids say (they don't say that), is a great way to express to the world you're getting married. It also is the best way to get to know you as a couple before your wedding. Generally, if I'm shooting your wedding, my first experience with you as a photographer will be your engagement shoot. We can iron out all the wrinkles and get comfortable with me dancing around with a camera. I've witnessed many engagement sessions go beautifully and some...not so much. So here are some much needed tips in having an amazing first photo shoot with a photographer.

1. Pick a photographer that feels like they match your style.

Sounds like a given but you would be surprised. Are you a quirky couple? Do you like studio or natural light? Dark and dramatic or light and airy? A photographer's portfolio will give you a general idea of what your shoot will be like.

       2: Wardrobe, wardrobe, wardrobe!

Dress for the job you want, not the job you have. Okay wait, maybe this isn't an interview but it's definitely a chance to be impressive. I am not saying you should go out and purchase new clothing. I'm actually against that. New clothing generally makes people feel a little more uncomfortable. It's a total sensory thing. Think about what looks good on you, what makes you feel good. This goes for both bride and groom to be. Select details that sparkle or make you feel that much more special. Khakis and a polo shirt won't do it. As photographers we are here to help make things look aesthetically pleasing, so pick some options if you are in doubt and ask us!

        3: Where should we do this? Make it personal.

There are tons of places that are adequate for photos. I'm sure there is a nice park or area that would work just fine but go deeper. Is there a place in the memory of the both of you that makes you smile? Maybe a coffee shop or restaurant? Us photographers do not mind asking to shoot at these places at all. Trust us, we get more "yes's" than "no's" when we inquire nicely. Pick a location that's special to you and if you don't have one, let's come up with one together.

       4: "Now hug and kiss."Look like you're in love and other things that you should never be told to do.

There is nothing more unromantic than being posed. Sometimes, it may have to happen but those times should be infrequent. We don't want to tell you how to hold your partner's hand. We just want you to love doing it. Sometimes we use a telephoto (long) lens so that we aren't in your faces. We want couples to have the space they deserve to feel comfortable. If you feel awkward in front of a camera that's okay. We've got many tricks up our sleeves, like awful dad jokes, crazy stories about mexico in 1998 or even better, getting the couple to talk about themselves. The ice will slowly break.

       5: Golden hour is a great hour.

If you're not familiar with the term, golden hour, it is the time before dusk. About an hour or two before sunset. These are great times to take pictures, why? The sun is low creating softer light. That light is more of a golden, reddish hue. Ah, see "golden" hour.It's a magical time for a magical couple. If we are indoors, mid day works fine but generally photos in that part of the day have less contrast and tend to look more washed out.

      6: Look for inspiration

Not quite sure at the look you want? That's okay. You don't have to know all the answers. In the fashion world photographers create mood boards before shoots. You can too! Just use Pinterest. It's a great way to see ideas that you may not have readily in your head. Make it a dialogue between you and the photographer so we know what we are working toward. Remember, it's your shoot. Show us your love.

There, don't you feel better? I thought you would. It isn't scary. Engagement photos are something that should be the icing on the cake. You've done the hard part, proposing and bringing someone else into your life, this is just a pictorial celebration. Here are some of my favorite moments. Any questions, or to book your very own awesome shoot, click the booking tab on my site!